Acts 14:1-7 NKJV

[1] Now it happened in Iconium that they went together to the synagogue of the Jews, and so spoke that a great multitude both of the Jews and of the Greeks believed. [2] But the unbelieving Jews stirred up the Gentiles and poisoned their minds against the brethren. [3] Therefore, they stayed there a long time, speaking boldly in the Lord, who was bearing witness to the word of His grace, granting signs and wonders to be done by their hands. [4] But the multitude of the city was divided: part sided with the Jews and part with the apostles. [5] And when a violent attempt was made by both the Gentiles and Jews, with their rulers, to abuse and stone them, [6] they became aware of it and fled to Lystra and Derbe, cities of Lycaonia, and to the surrounding region. [7] And they were preaching the gospel there.

Division is one of the biggest killers of all relationships. Marriages, families, and friend groups can all fall victim to divisiveness. When you get more than one person involved in anything, disagreements are bound to happen. Personalities clash, visions vary, and plans don't always match up from one person to another. The early church fell victim to division because God's will wasn't favored over old traditions, past practices, and popular opinions.

It is no surprise that secular relationships would run into problems. The sole focus of most worldly relationships is for some form of personal gain... my wants, my wishes, my way. So, why aren't Christian relationships and modern-day churches any different? I think it all comes back to what, or rather WHO, we focus on the most.

If I am focused first on God, all of my relationships should be Christ-centered. I can't be self-seeking and following Jesus at the same time.

Matthew 6:33 - But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

It isn't spiritually, mentally, or emotionally healthy to always expect things to go my way. I can't have an entitlement attitude and a spirit of humility at the same time. I don't believe God wants me to "not" have my way, but if I am looking to Him first, my way will always bend to His will.