Proverbs 25:23 NKJV

[23] The north wind brings forth rain, and a backbiting tongue an angry countenance.

When a relationship, marriage (or a church) falls apart, we automatically default to believe it all occurred because of one or two major disasters. Infidelity, corruption, or some other serious issue must be the cause. While this my sometimes be the case, it is the exception and not the rule.

Every established relationship requires two-way communication. If you want to be closer to God, you have to pray and read the Bible. If you want a better marriage, you have to stay connected emotionally through authentic conversation. When our communications cease or lose authenticity, our relationships start falling apart.

I have the option to talk about someone or go directly to them for the sake of understanding, correction, or clarity. In almost every instance, the breakdown is created through a lack of information. We don't always see the whole picture. What I have found is that if I keep myself away from the judgment of gossip, I will open my eyes, ears, and heart to a greater level of understanding.

James 1:19 - So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20. for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.